Are we helping our children ? We parents often find ourselves solving various situations for our children. It is really a help they need and they are kind of addicted to it or it is just our thoughts that think they cannot live without our help.
We make distinctions when it is the right time to help our children and when does it exceeds acceptable level. Helping and managing the life of children are two completely different things. Lets help out but also let the kids work by themselves, don’t make everything easy for them and don´t make a nice path for them which may be more of your dream than theirs. Don’t try to fulfill our past desires and unfulfilled dreams via our children. Let them live their dreams and fulfill their objectives, although they must not be according to our ideas. Let’s be helpful to them, but don’t make conditions.
What if your our kid is talented and is excelling in some kind of sport but is a minor.
We as his legal representative, are obliged to make decisions only in his favor. Suddenly we find ourselves on the edge of how to be good parents and also support the career of the child, and do the best for his further sport and personal development. We meet with coaches who advise us what to do and how to lead a child, so once it will grow into a top athlete. Maybe we do not know much about the sport, but we do everything what is in our strength and support the child financially, emotionally and often invest a lot of our time and energy.
Let’s provide some space and time for children, so they move forward and realize that they must rely on themselves. Although the child may have a great talent for something and may want to try some other sports or hobbies, just let them have it and they will surely find the right path for themselves.
– Don’t be afraid to help if they ask for it.
-If the match will go good, admire them, it helps them grow their healthy self-confidence. If you saw something that you didn’t like just mention it after the match and ask why did he/she do it that way. This will be good for them to realize they made a mistake and will try to avoid it in the future.
– If you would like to motivate your children in some way, take them to the big match of real Champions where they can soak up the atmosphere and get closer to the stars, to an idol, it may be the most proper motivation in their sport careers.
